Ahsan Allahu ilaykum, Am I sinful if my non muslim parents notice that I hate when they visit, Im polite but I think it shows, because they try to get my kids to listen to music, & for ex. things like mentioning my gay cousin getting married and "having kids" in front of them and other problems..

Ustadh AbdulAziz al-Haqqan

You can be dutiful to them without letting the children mingle with them much. Also try in a wise and gentle way to set boundaries that cannot be crossed.