أحسن الله إليكم, What is the appropriate manner to advise/ respond to someone who is backbiting/ complaining about being wronged by someone else? Is changing the topic and saying she should have Sabr sufficient? or should I be more assertive and forbidding?

Ustadh AbdulAziz al-Haqqan

Changing the subject and telling them to have sabr is good and reminding them of Allah and that you are afraid that you will gain sins by mentioning them