Assalamu Aleykom wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh, Am I sinful if I talk in an irritated way to my husband if he keeps triggering me. He then keeps saying that I was sinful for doing that.

The scholars said that if her anger comes from his harm, there is no blame on her for feeling it, but she must still strive against herself and answer him with good words, while angering him without right is a sin. Raising the voice and harsh words are not allowed from either spouse, and he too must stay away from what provokes her.